Marriage Sucks

It is true that marriage is an almost no-win situation for men in Singapore. The Women's Charter is too strong here. At best, the man gets lucky and marries a good woman. At worst...

I have always felt that marriage is bad. It changes things. Couples become complacent after marriage and things go to hell. Worse, marriage leads to children. They distract the woman, put stress on both and generally contribute to marital breakdown. Bottomline is, a man has nothing to gain from getting married. Unless he wants to have children, which (in any case) is not such a good idea in Singapore these days.

When the time comes to exit, the man faces the hurdles of 'division of matrimonial assets', 'custody' and 'maintenance'. That's enough to make some of them think twice. You can be quite sure that those who do proceed, really want out.

As to the matter of infidelity, marriage is just 'a piece of paper'. It's not going to make any difference if the relationship is broken, or if the man is not upright. What's important is the love (corny, I know) between the couple, and the strength of the man's character. Of course, women stray too, and for the same reasons.

So, there is much to recommend cohabitation. It keeps both parties on their toes, never taking things for granted. There's no hassle if things fall apart. Having said that, it only works when the man is honourable (which is rather rare). Ultimately, you can't blame women for playing the marriage game. Only the stupid men who play along.